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My Wedding: Five Things I Would Change


If I could do my wedding day all over again.... what would I do differently?  To be honest, there isn't a whole lot I would change about my wedding because it was the most perfect day I could have hoped for.  While it was really easy to write a post on the things I would do all over again at my wedding, I struggled a bit to come up with five things I would have changed about the day.  Which makes me happy because who wants to look back on their wedding with regrets?!  No one does so that's why I figured I would share a few things that I would encourage other brides to consider/do.

+ Videographer
This is my NUMBER ONE biggest regret.  I am so sad I didn't have a videographer.  I had a million reasons not to get one - the cost, I already had an amazing photographer, would I really watch it? - so I didn't.  And while I have hundreds of beautiful pictures (that I look at weekly still), I would give anything to have some actual footage from our big day.  Work that videographer into your budget.  Do whatever you have to do - it will be SO worth it!


+ Bridesmaid Dresses
I was actually obsessed with my bridesmaids dresses but I feel really bad about how much I made them spend!  I hate to even admit it.. but they were $315.  That was probably my crazy bride moment - I thought I needed these Monique Lhuiller dresses but I'm sure I would have been just as happy with something more reasonable.


+ Send Off
A send off at the end of the reception was one thing that totally slipped my mind!  During wedding planning, I had all these grand ideas of a send off with sparklers or sprinkles or something fun that would result in amazing pictures.  And then I developed bride brain and it got completely forgotten about in my planning!

One of the last pictures of the night!  No super cute send off pics here.

+ Weather
Obviously this is something I had zero control over, but in my perfect world I would definitely have changed the weather!  75 degrees, sunny with a slight breeze was all I was asking for.. instead I got a high of maybe 55 degrees, clouds, windy with a threat of rain all day (but thankfully never did).  Our reception was right on the water but that was all for nothing because we had to put the sides up on the tent.  And bring in heat lamps so everyone stayed warm!  In July!


+ Utilize Bridesmaids/Relax
My last one isn't something I would have changed about the actual day of the wedding but instead leading up to the wedding. I would have utilized my bridesmaids a little more because there were a few times that I was stressed out with everything I had to do but didn't want to bother anyone.  Well that was dumb.  I've been a bridesmaid before and I was willing and ready to help at any chance - I don't know why I didn't take advantage of my 4 girls that lived in Chicago with me.


And finally, R-E-L-A-X.  I had a million things going on during wedding planning; I was working, taking classes and trying to keep up some sort of social life and sometimes I let it overwhelm me.  I wish I would have realized that those few months were only going to happen once in my life and to loosen up and enjoy them a little more!

If you want to read more about our wedding, check out the recaps here!  What would you have changed about your big day?
Linking up with ShannaJordon and Liz

37 comments

  1. I love when you do these - I to ally would change the weather if I could - I'm still so sad that it rained as hard as it did and I really wanted my ceremony outside {i'm still a crazy former bride}!!! The dresses you picked were gorgeous and I'm sure they'll get you back when you're standing by their side haha! I totally agree on the videographer - it's something that i knew we would have no matter what! Great post doll!

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  2. I don't have a lot of regrets from our wedding day either, as it was a beautiful day. But like you, we did not have a videographer and I kick myself to this day for that oversight. Such a big regret. You are not alone in that!

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  3. That sucks about the video!! I think that's something you probably don't realize you need until after it's over. We have ours, and I'm so happy we do. I can't believe it was 55 in JULY! Holy smokes, that's cold for summer! I understand fully thought (I had a hurricane wedding LOL). All of your pictures are gorgeous and you made the most beautiful bride xo

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  4. The videographer was one of my must haves! I knew I wanted to be able to hear our vows, hear laughs of loved ones, and actually watch everyone dancing and partying at the reception. Less than 3 years after our wedding, we already lost 4 people very dear to us and seeing all of them laughing and dancing at our wedding is fantastic! Every time a bride asks for my advice I always say not to sweat the small stuff and to squeeze a videographer into the budget! Even if it's just a friend with a video camera ;-)

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  5. We had a friend videotape the wedding for us - not a professional, but at least we have something. I wish we would have had a professional videographer though! I think that's something a lot of people cut back on. Those dresses are beautiful even if they were pricey! Great post! Your wedding looks gorgeous!

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  6. i have been throwing around the idea of a videographer; hearing people say it's not worth it and i completely agree with you! i feel like it's something i would so cherish!

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  7. These are all great things to think about. I know a lot of people skip the videographer but I agree with you, if there is one time you want a professional video- this is it! I will keep all of this in mind for the future :)

    Ps. You looked gorgeous and love those bridesmaid dresses!

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  8. My sister's then boyfriend videoed the wedding for us. While its not a super duper love song fest, it works and he also did our entrance to the reception. I look at the people who do them now and kinda do wish I had one, my photographer now offers it as a part of the package and I wish he had when we got married.

    My bridesmaids were my sister, and his two sisters. Mine was in Colorado and couldn't help much; the two here just flat out refused. They did complain a lot and a part of me wishes I didn't have them in the wedding (I know that sounds so mean but at the time with their complaining, it would have just been easy to say get out) but I had my other friends who were willing to help.

    We did a send off at the church and boy do I wish I could have used sparklers. We used bubbles and got some great pics but the church wouldn't allow the sparklers but that would have made for a cute pic as well.

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  9. I almost skipped the videographer but I'm very glad I didn't. And those bridesmaid dresses are stunning! No changes they are gorgeous!

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  10. Gorgeous photos and glad that it was hard for you to come up with these because that means you did a perfect job planning your wedding!! The videographer thing is tough because you can't go back and recreate, but the pictures will tell a great story!!

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  11. Thank you thank you thank you for posting this! I am getting married in October and am so overwhelmed with everything left to do. I was in need of a reminder to ask for help!

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  12. It's so funny that you posted this today because Ryan and I were just reflecting back on our day and things we would change (which we also had a hard time with!) Mine would be a different photography studio and have two photographers, have hair and makeup people come to my parents house to get us ready, buy my dress a size bigger so the straps wouldn't be cutting in my shoulders all night (the dress fit me like a glove, but the seamstress took the straps in too much!), and our weather, too. Except, we got some pretty awesome umbrella pictures that are special and unique to our day.

    Also, I have to laugh just a little - $315 for bridesmaids dresses?! I'm pretty sure my friends, cousin and sister would have told me to take a hike if I told them that's what I wanted. :)

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  14. I loved reading this, I am getting married this Saturday so it was definitely a good reminder! We hired a videographer because like you I have heard from so many brides that they wish they would have had footage. I've thought about a send-off, but I just don't have it in me to plan something like that at this point hahaha. Your photos are beautiful!!!

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  15. I completely feel your pain on the videographer. Because we were so young and paying for it all on our own, there are so many things I would do different. We didn't have a professional photographer, just a family member taking pictures. I want to cry every single time I think about it :( I would 100% hire a photographer & videographer if I could do it all over. You and your bridesmaids looks stunning, that picture belongs in a magazine. Those dresses really are beautiful!

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  16. YES to all!!! I hate when I have clients that don't have videographers... it puts the pressure on me as the photographer & I KNOW it will never live up to real motion. I always tell my brides, even if its getting uncle bob to hold a video camera - do it!

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  17. Not having a videographer was my top regret from our wedding day. I'll probably regret that until the day I die. I was so stupid for listening to other people that didn't have one and thought that it wasn't a big deal.

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  18. Our wedding was in February and freezing too hah. But it always beats rain, right?

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  19. I didn't have a videographer either, we just couldn't afford it so it kills me =\ I wish I'd at least just asked a cousin or family friend to shoot some of the reception-- even a low budget/homemade video would be better than nothing! UGH! And I also regret no send off... our reception just kinda' fizzled at the end of the night, ending with a few random stragglers hanging around and talking our arms off, when really I just wanted to get the heck outta there and head to the hotel- lol! A more organized send off, where we didn't get caught taking last minutes pics, hugs etc would have been easier on us!

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  20. Love this list. I had one of my dear old friends video my wedding and she didn't charge me anything. She used that as her gift to me. Priceless.

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  21. These photos are just gorgeous! You were such a stunning bride! And I am not yet planning a wedding, but I absolutely love watching the little mini-clips of other people's weddings, so that's going to be at the top of my list! (as long as I don't forget, haha!) xo

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  22. I don't have a lot of regrets from our wedding day either but there are a lot of bridal brain moments...I really wanted to do one of the door pictures with the bride and groom on each side. Like talked about this for months and than forgot to mention it to my photographer during our last meeting. I do wish I had thought about where to do our sneak peek though rather than in the parking lot of the church. I go back and forth with having our wedding in the church I grew up in. Sometimes I think our pictures would be even better if they were outside!

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  23. The videographer is the only one I might would lose one night of sleep on. :) And I do agree with you about the dress $$$$$ but it is pretty average so no need to sweat that one! :)

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  24. #1 #1 #1 #1 gaaah my biggest regret too :( it just wasn't in our budget at the time and I didn't try to make it work with everything else going on! I feel your heart's pain! haha

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  25. Your wedding was GORGEOUS! We did not have a videographer as I too opted to spend more on our photographer (who I absolutely adored). However a guest of the wedding filmed portions of the wedding and although the footage is shaky and commentary is funny. She captured our vows, our first kiss and some speeches. What an incredible gift!

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  26. Videographer is something we cut due to price too! At the time it was not something I thought was worth spending money on, but now every time I see someone else's wedding video clips I get sad I don't have one to look at! I also would have done a first look before the ceremony if I could do things over again.

    Paige
    tomatoesforcucumbers.com

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  27. your bridesmaid dresses were sooooo pretty! i wish i did a send off at the end of the night too!! sparklers would have been really pretty! xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  28. awww great list! Sorry you had five regrets! I'm with you on all of it!

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  29. You were a BEAUTIFUL bride! I almost didn't get a videographer because they are so expensive but had a close friend's husband be our videographer last minute. I'm DYING to see the video!!!

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  30. Gorgeous. Gorgeous. Gorgeous. I mean, even the bridesmaid dresses! I don't know if I would have been upset with the price or thrilled to have my skin touching lhuiller :) probs they latter

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  31. Your bridesmaid dresses are GORGEOUS! If only all bridesmaid dresses we're that stunning HAHA!

    Kristen @ Your Beauty Fix

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  32. Such a cute post and great tips to put in my pocket for the future (especially the sparklers)! I love your bridesmaid dresses, I'm glad you made them spend that $$. ha ha

    xo, Megan Ann

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  33. I would definitely have a father/daughter dance and our first dance. We had our reception at the church we were married at and there is no dancing there and I really hate that I missed out on those special moments with my dad & hubby.

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  34. Wow Katie! You were a stunning bride! The weather may not have been perfect but it made for perfect photos! I kind of wish I had a videographer as well. My photographer made a cute video but still...I had a friend film stuff but haven't even seen it yet and that was 8 months ago!

    Our send-off was fun but I did it too early. I was so afraid that there wouldn't be enough people left for it and freaked! haha

    After being a bridesmaid so many times, that was definitely something I dealt with casually. I picked a color scheme and told them to find any dress in that color. They sent me photos before and it was a bit dramatic because my sister hates ANY dress but it turned out well and I think they each spent $30-40 on them!

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  35. I agree that you were a stunning bride Katie :) I loved that you shared these amazing photos! Those bridesmaids dresses (to die for!) :) I am so scared I am going to forget something with the wedding coming up in 6 months but I keep telling myself that as long as the groom shows up and we sign the papers to be legally bond, I am happy :)

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  36. I dismissed the idea of a videographer immediately and I regret it now. Our photographer was amazing so I didn't think we needed video, BUT the church told her (10 minutes before the ceremony started!) that she wasn't allowed to use any flash and the pictures we have from our ceremony aren't great. They're fine but they're not as amazing as all the other shots we got that day and now I wish we at least had some video of the ceremony!
    I didn't even think to do a send-off but I wish we had done that as well.

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  37. such a great post! i didnt have a video thingy and i dont regret it. i didnt have the send off either, womp womp. those dresses are gorgeous though!

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