Sunday, February 19, 2017

Sunday Night

Tonight was a good night.

Hadley took a long afternoon nap, so I snuggled up on the couch and read, while Nick hit up the grocery store and made dinner. He makes this delish olive oil and veggie pasta that has become kind of a Sunday night tradition when it's warm out. And oh was it warm out this weekend! We got up to 67 degrees. In Michigan. In February. Pretty much unheard of.


Anyway, while I was relaxing while my amazing husband made dinner, I finished reading The Magnolia Story. I am on a roll with the good books lately, guys. I LOVED this book. It was a light, easy read (which I needed after this one) and Chip and Joanna's story is truly inspirational. There was also a chapter near the end that totally spoke to me as a wife and a mother. It was about thriving - not just surviving - in this season of your life.

Motherhood is messy and hard and completely all consuming. I've struggled a lot since becoming a mom with how to balance everything. I feel like I'm not giving my all to anything, except Hadley, which is how it should be, but I can't help sometimes feeling like I'm half-assing everything else and I hate that.

I'm sick of feeling stressed about the cleanliness of my house, what we're going to have for dinner, how I wear leggings almost every day of my life. I don't want to be that stressed out, high strung mother and mom - especially over things that don't even actually matter in the long run. Motherhood may be crazy, but it's absolutely the best ride of my life and I want to ENJOY every single moment of it. I just haven't really figured out how to do that yet - let all of this little stuff go - in a way that works for me. But in The Magnolia Story, Jo brought up an amazing point about not looking at these little things as stressors, but instead as blessings. And that little shift in perspective has really hit home for me.

When I feel like toys and clothes and bottles are everywhere, I need to remind myself that it's because a happy and healthy baby lives here. 

When the laundry piles up and there are tumbleweeds of Brady's fur everywhere, I need to remind myself to be thankful for a roof over my head and the blessing that my family is.

When I have another Junior League meeting, I need to appreciate the fact that it has brought me some great friends and we are doing wonderful things for the community.

When blogging starts to feel like a chore, I need to remind myself of how wonderful it is to have something for just myself, a kind of creative outlet, and all of you amazing ladies that stop by here every day.

When our weekends are busy and there's no time for relaxing, I need to be reminded of how blessed we are to have family and friends that want to spend their time with us.

It really is all about perspective. In every situation, I can choose the 'surviving' response, or the 'thriving' response. It's such a simple thing, but it really spoke to me, so I had to share. Who knows who else needed to hear this tonight, right?

If you guys haven't read The Magnolia Story yet, I'd highly recommend it! Now which one I should read next...

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18 comments

  1. Yup... I've been having that same realization lately and I've been trying SO HARD to shift my perspective away from all the frustrations and back to the things that are so amazing and great. Even this little B&B that makes me feel like I'm 16-years-old again... because guess what? I brought four babies here today who had NEVER LEFT TEXAS. EVER. That's what I get to do every day. ;)

    Now... if only I had some of that veggie and olive oil pasta to feed myself... ;)

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  2. (Oh, and last time? It meant that I actually got to connect with one of my favorite bloggers... YOU!!!)

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  3. Well let me know what book you decide to read next so we can keep up this nice thing we have going of reading the same books at the same time ;) But for real, I love this post! That chapter has spoken to everyone that I've talked to about this book, because it's so so so so so so so so so true!! Here's to helping each other slow down and enjoy this time of our lives!

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  4. Yup! It's taken me awhile to realize that I can't give everything 100% so I need to do the best I can and look at the positive side of what I'm doing. I have that book on my to-read list so maybe I'll pick it up next.

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  5. I love this....thanks for sharing these points. I've been seeing more and more about this book, maybe its the exact book I need right now too.

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  6. Love this attitude and I definitely need to do more of this!

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  7. I absolutely loved that book!! It totally changed my perspective on certain things too. It spoke to me in ways I really needed when I read it at the end of the year. I think it's one I will read again because I loved it so much! The marriage, business and trusting God parts of the book spoke to me the most at this point in my life but her thoughts on motherhood were amazing too!

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  8. That chapter really hit home for me too as I am trying to find the balance in my life between being a new mom, working full time, having a side gig and still trying to enjoy the little things like blogging and reading that I loved before! It is hard but you are right, we have to look at it all as blessings and change our perspective. Glad you enjoyed the book as much as I did! The Nightingale was certainly a heavier read, but it really sticks with you right??

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  9. Love this!! Thanks for sharing! Since opening my side business, I've definitely let some chores go to the wayside and you know what, it's alright? Sometimes the best nights are when I don't worry about things and spend time with my husband (watching Downton Abbey lol!!)

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  10. Love this! I just finished that book last weekend and it was so great. Even though I'm not to the motherhood chapter just yet, I found it very inspiring!

    Zelle
    Southern Style

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  11. I'm so glad that you enjoyed The Magnolia Story! Joanna definitely is onto something with her thriving vs surviving perspective. I imagine it affects you much more as a new mom, so I'm glad that those words resonated with you! Also, can Nick share his pasta recipe?! That looks stinkin' delish!

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  12. So so true and a great reminder! That book is on my list to read next! I need to get it! Yes, I try to always remind myself that even though I'm stressed, I'm blessed :) ;)

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  13. I just loved that book too... they are just the cutest couple. They have their values on straight.

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  14. I have read that book and I loved it as well!

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  15. Seriously that was my favorite recent read to date and that section spoke to me so boldly as well! So happy you enjoyed it! xo

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  16. I'm so glad you shared this today and I'm so glad you are always honest about motherhood. I can relate 100% to your struggles and feel like I'm in the exact same boat as you. I bought that book for my SIL for Christmas so I'll have to ask her if I can borrow it soon- haha.

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  17. Wow! This post really hit home with me... And I just love the positivity and perspective you have shown! I definitely need to add this to my reading list.

    I have had to remind myself this a lot during this pregnancy - we prayed so hard for our third baby but this pregnancy has been so rough and at times, completely debilitating for me but there is a true miracle at the end and I have to keep reminding myself of this blessing during the dark moments.
    x

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  18. I just started Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley and ohhhhhhh man is it good. Speaks straight to the heart on some of these same topics, like balance. Definitely buying Magnolia now!!

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