Hadley took a long afternoon nap, so I snuggled up on the couch and read, while Nick hit up the grocery store and made dinner. He makes this delish olive oil and veggie pasta that has become kind of a Sunday night tradition when it's warm out. And oh was it warm out this weekend! We got up to 67 degrees. In Michigan. In February. Pretty much unheard of.
Anyway, while I was relaxing while my amazing husband made dinner, I finished reading The Magnolia Story. I am on a roll with the good books lately, guys. I LOVED this book. It was a light, easy read (which I needed after this one) and Chip and Joanna's story is truly inspirational. There was also a chapter near the end that totally spoke to me as a wife and a mother. It was about thriving - not just surviving - in this season of your life.
Motherhood is messy and hard and completely all consuming. I've struggled a lot since becoming a mom with how to balance everything. I feel like I'm not giving my all to anything, except Hadley, which is how it should be, but I can't help sometimes feeling like I'm half-assing everything else and I hate that.
I'm sick of feeling stressed about the cleanliness of my house, what we're going to have for dinner, how I wear leggings almost every day of my life. I don't want to be that stressed out, high strung mother and mom - especially over things that don't even actually matter in the long run. Motherhood may be crazy, but it's absolutely the best ride of my life and I want to ENJOY every single moment of it. I just haven't really figured out how to do that yet - let all of this little stuff go - in a way that works for me. But in The Magnolia Story, Jo brought up an amazing point about not looking at these little things as stressors, but instead as blessings. And that little shift in perspective has really hit home for me.
When I feel like toys and clothes and bottles are everywhere, I need to remind myself that it's because a happy and healthy baby lives here.
When the laundry piles up and there are tumbleweeds of Brady's fur everywhere, I need to remind myself to be thankful for a roof over my head and the blessing that my family is.
When I have another Junior League meeting, I need to appreciate the fact that it has brought me some great friends and we are doing wonderful things for the community.
When blogging starts to feel like a chore, I need to remind myself of how wonderful it is to have something for just myself, a kind of creative outlet, and all of you amazing ladies that stop by here every day.
When our weekends are busy and there's no time for relaxing, I need to be reminded of how blessed we are to have family and friends that want to spend their time with us.
It really is all about perspective. In every situation, I can choose the 'surviving' response, or the 'thriving' response. It's such a simple thing, but it really spoke to me, so I had to share. Who knows who else needed to hear this tonight, right?
If you guys haven't read The Magnolia Story yet, I'd highly recommend it! Now which one I should read next...